Why You Haven’t Met A Great Guy Yet

Written by Christian Carter |  2 Comments

Are you wondering where in the world you can meet a great guy right now?

And do you ever wonder what it is that’s keeping you from meeting the one for you?

Is it timing?

Is it your old boyfriend holding you back?

Is it your life and your routine that’s making you miss him?

Or is it something you’ve done in the past, or something you’re doing wrong now?

If you’ve ever thought about these, then tell me something honestly…

Have you ever felt frustrated and wondered-

“How come there just aren’t any great men out there?”

If so, then I’ve got some good news… and some real-world tips that are sure to help you find and ATTRACT a great guy.

To get started, here’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately…

How come all the available men out there who are actually single and available don’t seem interested in being with what I’ll call “real women”?

Women like YOU.

Instead… even the smartest, most handsome and successful men are constantly going for women who seem to have little or nothing to offer them.

And not only that, some men go for women who might “look good”, but who act CRAZY and are a total mess inside.

What’s the deal here?

Do guys really NOT WANT women of SUBSTANCE?

Women who are actually MATURE and INTERESTING, and who can bring depth to their life?

Are men ATTRACTED to “bad” women?

And are men really this blind and “short-sighted”?

The EASY answer is yes… men are all screwed up and shallow, there’s nothing you can do about it, and keep looking for that one in a million guy who is different.

But as a good friend of mine told me a while back – When you live the EASY WAY, life is HARD. But when you live the HARD WAY, life is EASY.

This couldn’t be more true.

So let me ask again…

Are men really this short-sighted and messed up?

Or is SOMETHING ELSE going on here that you’re just not seeing yet?

If you’re thinking ahead, then you might already get where I’m going with this…

I’m going to suggest to you that something else IS going on here. See, if the world was “fair”, then the best woman would get the best man. But in case you haven’t noticed, it doesn’t seem to work this way.

If you’re the “better person”, a man isn’t going to see the tall leggy blonde standing next to you with the short mini-skirt on who’s trying to get the attention of every man in the room… and then walk up to her, elbow her aside, look you in the eyes and say,

“Hey, there you are. I’ve been looking for a great woman and I could tell you were a quality person from across the room. Let’s get to know each other and talk.”

Sure, that would be great if this ever happened, and it seems “fair”… but this is unfortunately NOT how the world and men actually work.

What would be more likely to happen in this bar scenario is that-

-the blonde at the bar would probably grab the good guy before you could get a word in

-she’d proceed to flirt shamelessly with him and have to be the only woman to have his attention

-the guy wouldn’t even notice you until the other woman unknowingly started spilling her drink all over you and the man would see this and feel kind of sorry for you but not really care or notice you


If you’ve been around the block a few times, then you already know that When it comes to men, dating, and relationships the world is generally pretty UNFAIR.

Here’s the thing…

If you’ve ever had an experience with a man like the bar scenario above then I feel for you.

I know it SUCKS.

By the way, if you’d like to get to THE ROOT CAUSE of what makes a man FEEL ATTRACTED to a woman in the first place, and why a man chooses one woman and not another, then I can quickly help you understand what’s going on here.

If you learn how a man’s “attraction mechanism” really works on a PHYSICAL and EMOTIONAL level, then you’ll be able to create the strong feelings of ATTRACTION inside a man at any time. WHY YOU HAVEN’T MET THE RIGHT GUY

Earlier I asked you if you’ve ever wondered why there aren’t any good men out there.

This was kind of a trick question.

See… if you’ve wondered this, and you feel this way, then I’m going to suggest to you that there’s something deeper going on for you.

Something deeper than the fact that you haven’t crossed paths with a “hottie” who has his act together.

What I’m saying is that odds are you have a few critical ways of thinking and behaving in your own life that are holding you back right now and keeping you from CREATING the right situation where you’ll naturally end up meeting and attracting a great guy.

Now, how do I know all this?

Obviously I don’t know everything, but I do know a few important things about how us humans work… and about you as a woman and how men think and respond to you.

If you have the kind of BELIEF inside your head that’s telling you there are no good men out there for you… then something amazing and powerful is probably happening in your life-

Your mind is finding a way to make this sad situation true for you.

Think about it for a second…

Now, I’m telling you this because I believe that if you can recognize the things that are holding you back, like your own limiting beliefs, and then you can take steps to move past them… you’ll quickly get past the old patterns and situations in your love life.

And then you’ll be able to get to a new place where you’ll no longer spend your time wondering why you don’t have a man in your life… and you’ll naturally start finding, meeting, and attracting great guys wherever you go.

The Most Common & Destructive Beliefs About Men And Dating Women Hold In Their Minds…

One of the most common and destructive beliefs women hold in their minds about men and dating is something it’s taken me years to start to see and understand.

If I had to sum it up in a sentence, it would go something like, “When I meet the right guy, I won’t need to date and can skip right to a real relationship with him.”

Let me explain why this belief is so common and counterproductive when it comes to connecting with a man and growing into a great relationship.

See, the women who have this belief also carry another kind of “secret belief” inside them that is even deeper.

What’s this belief?

It’s that everything about meeting a man, getting to know him, and growing into a relationship that feels UNCERTAIN is unnecessary and should go away.

Or to put it another way, aside from those perfect situations where a man is head over heels into you and begging you for a committed relationship – DATING IS A DRAG.

Give me a silent nod if you’ve ever wished you could just skip the hassle of “dating”.

Well, there are a few critical things you need to know about dating if you want to be able to be with a man and move into a more serious relationship:

1. Dating Is By Definition UNCERTAIN

When you meet a man and you’re both getting to know each other, there’s almost no way you can predict what he is going to do or say until you get to know and understand him a little better.

Sure, you’ve got your intuition, and the power of ASKING QUESTIONS on your side… but even these can’t undo the uncertainty that comes with dating.

For some women, this “not knowing” makes them feel so vulnerable and out of control that they literally become filled with anxiety and worry and keep playing over all the angles of what’s happening in their minds until they start to drive themselves a little crazy.

And this happens even more with women who have been hurt in the past and haven’t been able to truly move past the pain they felt and the fear that has become associated with being close to a man.

The reality is, if you’re not able to deal with the uncertainty that is dating and getting to know a man, and you let it bother you too much on a mental and emotional level, you’re going to ruin something that could have been great with a guy.

2. UNCERTAINTY can and must work in your favor if you’re going to successfully date a man and grow into a more serious relationship with him

You might not have thought about it, but UNCERTAINTY, as much as it can feel bad, can be a great thing when you’re just getting to know a man.

What I mean is that the man you’re with, whether or not he will ever show you or admit it, is feeling uncertain just like you.

And with that uncertainty comes a real OPPORTUNITY.

See, men find the uncertainty of not knowing if a woman is going to be “into them” and if they’ll have their feelings and affections reciprocated VERY EXCITING.

If you’ve ever wondered why so many men seem almost addicted to “dating”, but never settle in more serious relationships, this is a large part of why.

It’s NOT just the sex and the women.

It’s the excitement of the uncertainty and the challenge.

Men LOVE the feeling of not knowing whether a woman is going to open up to them physically and emotionally… and then going about making it happen.

To get geeky on your for a second, you could argue that most of men’s behavior both socially and sexually revolves around finding ways to get women to open up to them.

But that’s a whole different topic.

Anyways… the point is that uncertainty can and should work in your favor with a man.

Instead of being something that makes you feel fear and causes you to act in ways that turn him off.

If you can make a man feel attracted to you, and you can let him know that instead of you feeling afraid that he’s not into you, that you’re not sure if YOU are into HIM, then a man is going to only feel that much more intensely interested and attracted to you.

But the mistake most women make when they feel uncertainty with a man is to think that the uncertainty is all about THEM – when in reality the entire situation is uncertain for BOTH him and her.

Follow me here?


I’ve also got to point out that by being open to communicating your uncertainty to a man when you’re dating, you gain another HUGE BENEFIT.

See, lots of women never let a man know that they are uncertain about CHOOSING HIM, and why.

Lots of women don’t want to “make waves” if they think this could be the one.

But then something bad happens – the man never learns from the woman what she really is looking for, and what she really wants and needs.

Simply by letting a man know that you are uncertain about CHOOSING HIM when you’re dating, something very powerful happens…

You subtly communicate to a man that you are a woman who is SELECTIVE and who has STANDARDS.

And of course, when this happens the man is going to want to get to know your standards very quickly to either:

A) Make sure he meets them and conforms to them because he wants to be with you

B) Decides that he doesn’t fit with what you are really looking for and “disqualifies” himself and saves you a whole lot of heartache and frustration down the road.

Either way, you have a great outcome that is sure to be to your benefit over the long term.

Now, understanding why being the kind of woman who communicates that she is SELECTIVE and has STANDARDS is easier said than done.

In fact, it honestly takes a lot of time just thinking about what these are and what they mean to even understand what’s going on here when it comes to men and dating.

And then learning exactly how to put these things into ACTION in your conversation and your behavior with a man is a whole other story.

Luckily I can help there. I’ve already done all the heavy lifting for you.

Over several years I interviewed women in the real dating world, talked to men in great relationships with women about what worked with them… and researched and observed everything you could imagine from pick up lines in bars to how married couples in long terms relationships communicate and kept the love, affection, and the understanding alive and well between them.

The product of my first several years of research, observation, and then coaching women and “trial and error” to learn what really worked to catch men’s interest and keep it was my eBook.

It’s called “Catch Him & Keep Him” and you can download it right now and be reading it in just a minute or two.

You can even download it for free, try it out and keep reading it to decide if you like it and only pay me if it really helps you.

I’ve already helped thousands of women jump-start their love lives and find the kind of fun, excitement, and happiness that they only thought was for the lucky few women who had one of the few good men around.

Don’t keep living in that world of hope and worry that one day maybe you can have the love in your life you want.

Make it happen today.

Start by downloading my eBook right now here:


Yours in health and relationships,

Christian Carter

Categories : Common Dating Problems

Christian Carter is a leading advisor to women on dating, relationships, connection and love. An expert in psychology, communication and behavior, Christian Carter has developed foundational concepts that help women understand men, dating and relationships. Visit Christian's official website, by clicking here.


  1. uche priscillia says:

    please enlighten us more on how to treat a men for them to show us women they really love them

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  2. YouAllHaveProblems says:

    Ok, the reason none of you have found “the Man” is because your too picky. those “hotties” who swoop in and get all the good guys, weather they are smart and together or not get the hottest guys and all you mediocoure girls seem to think you entitled to those 1st rate guys. when if you would just look around at the guys in you league you would probbably find a guy that is attractive, not A list movie star attractive; but seriously there arent that many guys who are, has his shit together or is getting it together, and is looking for someone who is in the same place as them. honestly if you have to go on a dating website you are not the 1st rate girl in the bunch, like the guy you seem to demand. the point is your not settling but you cant get the prince so why not find a normal guy who makes you happy? seriously, get over yourself.

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