He Stopped Communicating! Here’s What To Do…

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Do you know what the single MOST IMPORTANT SKILL to have in a relationship with a man is?

The one skill that underlies EVERYTHING, and is proven to be the ultimate “make it or break it” aspect for long term relationships and marriage?

I’ll give you a second to think about what this one absolutely critical skill is…

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Figure it out yet?

Is it knowing how to keep a fulfilling life of your own while in a serious relationship?

Is it taking responsibility for your own happiness first?

Or is it keeping the passion alive and making sure he’s “sexually satisfied” with you so that he wants to stay with you and only you?

The answer is none of these things.

The single most important thing you’ll ever need to know if you want to have a LASTING and SECURE RELATIONSHIP with a man is…

The skill of knowing how to CONNECT and COMMUNICATE with a man.

And notice I said “… with a man”.

Now, it might sound simple, but don’t be fooled here and make the mistake most women make thinking they know what they’re doing when it comes to how men think about talking and sharing in a relationship with a woman…

See… most women believe that they are great communicators because they can SHARE HOW THEY FEEL, and do so often.

But does this get them the kind of LISTENING and UNDERSTANDING that they want from the one man they want it with?

For an overwhelming majority of women, the answer is NO, it doesn’t.

But if you think about it, the numbers don’t add up here.

Here’s what I mean…

If you’re like most women, and you’re a great communicator and like to talk and share, then it makes sense that you should have an amazing level of communication going on in your relationships, right?

And you probably do… but mostly with THE WOMEN in your life. (Hint, hint)

I mean, doesn’t great communication mean that you’re able to create the SITUATION or the “environment” where both parties can talk, listen, understand each other, and share?

That’s what being a great communicator is all about – being the one to “facilitate” understanding and sharing.

But then why is it that so many women who are great communicators seem to be the ones who have UNSATISFYING and FRUSTRATING relationships that have little or no TWO-WAY COMMUNICATION with the man in their lives.

Following me here?

Something is off.

Here’s what I’ve discovered over the years working with women and helping them create amazing relationships with men…

Women who don’t understand how to genuinely connect with and understand men are always chalking up the poor level of communication to THE MAN in their life-as they see it all as a function of how he has STOPPED TALKING AND SHARING with them.

Now, who am I to say that this isn’t at least partly true.

But here’s WHAT REALLY MATTERS…

What does this situation where a man shuts off mean if you really are a great communicator?

It means that you have an opportunity to use your knowledge and SKILLS to quickly “facilitate” a new kind of conversation that will “re-engage” a man and immediately open the doors of LISTENING and UNDERSTANDING back up between you both.

The truth is, IT IS POSSIBLE to create near INSTANT CHANGE if you know how to communicate and connect with someone in the right way.

And when you start to learn how all this works, and how to quickly and easily connect with anyone on a deep level at any time, something magical starts to happen for you…

You start to harness the power of creating a strong “connection” between you and a man in each critical moment in your relationship…

And what’s even better, you start to enjoy the benefits of how a deep level of connection can immediately transform everything about how you are with each other.

In other words, that strong and powerful “connection” that you build actually safeguards you when the bad times, and the tough times do come and go.

And It’s AMAZING when you can experience this and feel the joy, the fulfillment, and the SECURITY and CERTAINTY that it brings.

Now…

Since we’ve touched on all this about the skill of creating a deep level of connection through communication, I’d like to ask you…

Do you have this CRITICAL SKILL right now?

Can you create the change and the growth you want in your relationship from your own ability to communicate and connect with HIM?

Or are you waiting for him to figure out how to reconnect with you, so he’ll pull you and your relationship out of the “funk” that it’s fallen into?

Do you feel STUCK as you’re constantly trying to reconnect, but the more you seem to try and talk, the more he seems to pull away?

If you don’t have this skill we’ve been talking about… then I think you’re starting to see that you’ll constantly be at the mercy of whether or not a guy chooses to feel like opening up to you or not.

And as you might already know, it’s in a man’s nature to want to “shut off” a lot of times.

In fact, he can go for days, weeks, months, even years without feeling the need or desire to open up and share what’s going on inside.

Is your strategy really to either:

-Fight against this by telling him he’s wrong and that he’s ruining your relationship?

-Wait it out and hope that he pulls himself out of it for the sake of your relationship?

I would strongly NOT recommend these strategies in a relationship with a man… even though they happen to be two of the most common “strategies” women take when they want to improve their relationship and the level of communication that’s happening.

Don’t keep feeling scared, anxious, and UNCERTAIN about whether or not a man is going to close off in the future and stay that way until you’re left with an empty shell of a relationship.

It’s time you started creating your own life and relationship that isn’t determined by whether or not a man feels like closing off orn not.

And that’s where I can help.

The first step is to take TOTAL PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY for creating the kind of communication you’d like to have in your life, and with a man in your relationship.

This will send a clear, subtle, but irrefutable message… because when you do this, suddenly all the frustration and blame you’ve been feeling that still hasn’t CHANGED THINGS will fall away and simply disappear inside you.

And a man will instantly notice and wonder what has changed inside you…

And he’ll be drawn to you, wanting to know what’s going on.

The next step is to make sure that you know what to do with this new “space” and environment for connection that will be created between you and a man.

And this is where it becomes absolutely critical that you have your act together when it comes to being able to COMMUNICATE in a way that builds connection and understanding.

You won’t be disappointed, and I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

Christian

Categories : Common Dating Problems

Christian Carter is a leading advisor to women on dating, relationships, connection and love. An expert in psychology, communication and behavior, Christian Carter has developed foundational concepts that help women understand men, dating and relationships. Visit Christian's official website, by clicking here.

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