The Fastest Way To Learn What He’s Thinking

Are you tired of not being able to say what it is you’re thinking or feeling to the man in your life?

Would you like to know how men think about situations with women, what works, what doesn’t, and why… and then learn how to apply this directly to the way you and a man talk with each other?

Now, let me ask you…

Do you ever get the feeling that the way you and a man communicate about real things in your relationship pushes you both farther apart… instead of bringing you closer?

Why does this happen?

Is it because you want a better relationship, but he doesn’t?

Is it because you aren’t saying the right words?

Or is it because of something else?

The truth is, there are no “magic words” to say to a man in a relationship.

Just like there isn’t some “pick-up line” a guy can use with you that will instantly make you feel differently about him.

The point is… when it comes to how people communicate, there’s a whole lot more going on than the WORDS you say.

And when it comes to love and relationships,magnify that times 100.

Here’s the reality…

There’s a difference between what SHOULD bring you closer and help you become more secure with a man… and what DOES bring you and a man closer.

Most women approach conversations with men, both when dating and in relationships, by trying to talk and say the things that would work FOR THEM.

For example, you believe that sharing your feelings and emotions SHOULD get a man to respond in kind, and listen.

And why not?

That’s what you do with your girlfriends all the time.

The more you share emotions and feelings with other women, the more connected you feel.

It’s not rocket-science that things work differently with a man.

But it is the case that VERY FEW women can tell you how to make a man feel open, honest, and genuinely excited and inspired to communicate with you in a real, lasting, long-term relationship.

In fact, quite the opposite is true if you ask men…

Lots of men feel “drained”, overwhelmed, or irritated by the kind of communication they share with the woman in their life.

Even if they love and respect the woman they’re with.

Say what!?

But how could this be?

You know this could be true, because you probably feel this way with the man in your life right now too - you love him, but the communication you share isn’t going to lead to either of you being happy, or a secure and fulfilling relationship.

It’s hard to finally come to these kinds of realizations… but when you do there is a ton of POWER and GROWTH in them that move you and everything in your life forward.

Including your relationship…

Here’s a realization it’s time for you to have right now…

The truth is that if right now you and the man in your life don’t:

A) have the kind of connection that allows you to be honest with how you feel

B) talk about important aspects of your relationship without the fear of making things worse

C) say things to each other that aren’t easy to say but need to be said

… then it’s time you stopped living the “surface” love life you’re living.

It’s time you gave yourself, and the man in your life, the gift of being able to communicate in a way that will allow for real GROWTH.

One of the biggest challenges in any real, lasting, loving relationship is for both people to be able GROW inside the relationship as partners… AND grow outside the relationship as INDIVIDUALS.

A relationship with only one of these areas of growth has little or no hope of being secure or lasting.

Do you know how to communicate with a man, and get him to communicate with you, in a way that creates both of these kinds of growth?

(Hint- most women like to think they know how because they are able to share their feelings… but this isn’t what creates growth with a man)

That’s why it’s time to stop trying what you think good communication is… and start learning and using WHAT WORKS with a man.

One of the most important secrets you’ll ever learn about communicating and building a secure and honest relationship is that there are ALWAYS two sides to every story.

In fact, there are usually more than two sides to any story.

If you don’t learn how to understand the story that a man is experiencing… and what’s going on inside HIS mind and heart… then odds are you’re NEVER going to be able to have that deep emotional “bond” in the way that you both communicate.

And you’re never going to get that same kind of understanding back from a man either.

It doesn’t seem fair, but the world works in mysterious ways.

If you want a man to open up and talk with you in a way that he’s probably never done before with any other woman - then you’re going to have to be able to communicate with him first in a way that let’s him know you’re not like any of the other women he’s been with.

I know this sounds like a lot of work and responsibility… but the beauty is this:

1. You’re going to be working towards and wanting a better relationship anyways

2. The more you can understand a man… the more he’s going to give back to you in kind

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Christian Carter

1 comment so far ↓

#1 Chrissy on 02.25.10 at 10:29 am

Umm, I’ve just found your website today and I noticed something. Though I understand that all people are different, there don’t seem to be any tools or answers to the questions posed.
“That’s why it’s time to stop trying what you think good communication is… and start learning and using WHAT WORKS with a man.” How do I learn that? i’ve tried everything I can think of, I know what doesn’t work obviously, otherwise we wouldn’t fight all the time. Yes, there are two or more sides to everything, how can I get him to tell me his, etc?

Thanks

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