Why Men Leave Women & Good Relationships

Written by Christian Carter |  1 Comment

Have you ever had a man break up with you and you felt it was because he was “afraid of commitment”, or that he just wasn’t “ready”?

Or maybe you’ve been in a relationship with a man who didn’t leave… but inside you knew he wasn’t really as committed or involved as you were and it caused all kinds of tension and worry?

If you’ve ever been in this kind of situation with a man, then you know how it feels to become less and less certain and satisfied as you spend more and more time and energy on your relationship.

I’m about to share with you how you can completely AVOID this painful and frustrating situation in the future… and turn around any current relationship with this same kind of dynamic going on.

First, let me ask you something important-

Do men really just not like being in open, loving, committed relationships with women?

And are men really and truly afraid of commitment?

Well, here’s something fascinating I want you to think about…

Like most women, I’m sure you’ve seen the situation where a man was totally convinced that he was happy being a single bachelor…

But when the right woman came along, it’s as though EVERYTHING changed in an instant.

All the old beliefs the guy had about being single simply went out the window.

And all of a sudden he was completely taken with the idea of being with this one woman.

It was HIM who was the one “courting” and pursuing HER, when he had sworn to remain single and “free” days or weeks ago.

Give me a silent nod if you know what I’m talking about and you’ve seen this happen.

It seems certifiably crazy, right?

Why is it that men change their minds so quickly and so radically?

And why can’t they be more consistent, more honest, and know what they want?

The reality is that when most men are acting “unavailable” or not “ready” for a relationship it’s often NOT because they are afraid of a real relationship or COMMITMENT.

I know, I know. I can just see you rolling your eyes in frustration right now because you’ve seen so much “proof” in your life that men really are afraid of love and real relationships.

I want you to suspend your disbelief here for a second in order to see things from a new and improved perspective.

I’m about to show you why this is true AND let you in on exactly what you can do about it to change your love life for the better forever.

Here’s the thing…

The fact that a man can be CERTAIN that he doesn’t want a relationship or a commitment with one woman… and then weeks or months later turn 180 degrees and become deeply committed with another woman proves that there’s something else going on here.

Give me another nod if you know what I’m talking about here and you’ve seen this common situation with men as well.


And now I’m going to give it to you straight as a man…

Could it be that when a man acts completely uninterested in a real relationship, or doesn’t want to commit, that maybe… just maybe… it has NOTHING to do with his fear of commitment?

What if is SOMETHING ELSE entirely?

Think about it for a second…

When a man physically leaves or emotionally withdraws from a relationship, the common response most women have is to think of all the reasons why he did this and what it means about HIM.

Here’s a few common examples of this kind of thinking:

“He’s got commitment issues.”

“He’s just not emotionally mature.”

“He’s not ready.”

“He was intimidated by me and afraid of the real love we have.”

“He still needs to go out and play with other women before he’ll be able to be with one woman.”

If you’re like LOTS of women I’ve known and talked to, then you’ve have had these same thoughts when one of YOUR relationships was in jeopardy or ended.

The REAL TRUTH is that when someone pulls away from or leaves a relationship, BOTH partners play a role.

And sure… guys can and do ACT afraid of commitment, pull away emotionally, and do things to make a more committed relationship difficult.

But this doesn’t mean that the way they ACT is the whole truth.

Just like how you can be fighting mad with a man or upset with him, even though you love himn so much and actually want you two to be closer.

In other words, a man’s emotional responses and behaviors, such as being distant, afraid of the future, or acting indifferent is just one part of how a man FEELS when he’s around you.

Men are emotional too – just in different ways and at different times.

So where am I going with all this?

Here’s where I land the plane…

I’m about to reveal a surprising truth that might sting.

It’s like a shot from the doctor – it’ll hurt for a few seconds, but it’s good for your health.

Here’s the “shot”…

Most women play a huge part in DRIVING MEN AWAY from perfectly good relationships.

Of course, if you are one of the women who does this, you usually have little or no idea that you’re doing this.

In fact, you’re COMPLETELY UNCONSCIOUS of your part in pushing a man away because you’re too busy thinking that all your words, emotions, and actions are supposed to be bringing a man closer to you.

And you behave in sublte ways that, little by little, push the man farther and farther away.

One of the most common ways that women do this is by constantly identifying MISTAKES a man is making, or ways that a man makes them UNHAPPY, and pointing these out all the time, over and over, without prompting or warning.

Think for a minute about what this makes a man THINK and FEEL about you, your relationship, and about himself…

I’ll give you a few minutes to think about this and the impact of it in your relationships.



See anything important going on?

Anything that might make a man feel MORE AFRAID of your relationship, or MORE FEARFUL of his ability to make you feel good, and thus feel good about himself as your partner?

Well, what if there were just a few simple steps, FIVE to be exact, that if you followed would act like an INSURANCE POLICY against ever driving a man away from you and making him less interested in a future with you?

And what if you could actually share MORE of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions within these 5 simple steps… and as a result bring the man in your life closer to you?

What if you could double or even triple the likelihood of a quality man “sticking around” long enough to create a solid, exciting, authentic, secure relationship full of passion and connection?

I’m here to tell you that there REALLY IS a simple 5 step process for allowing an amazing relationship to blossom in your life.

There is a process that will keep men from pulling away from you and instead invite them in naturally and almost effortlessly by use of the power of your emotions and the attraction that a man feels for you.

You’ve seen other women enjoy fulfilling relationships… and now it’s YOUR turn.

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love!

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Categories : Keeping Men Around

Christian Carter is a leading advisor to women on dating, relationships, connection and love. An expert in psychology, communication and behavior, Christian Carter has developed foundational concepts that help women understand men, dating and relationships. Visit Christian's official website, by clicking here.

One Comment

  1. Lorraine says:

    what if your in a 5 year relationship and he loves you and tells you all the time, and poof…he’s gone and 6 months later he’s engaged to another women?
    What do you do about this?

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