- Attracting Men
- Keeping Men Around
- Understanding Men
- Common Dating Problems
- Christian CarterChristian Carter at a Seminar Christian Carter is the author of the best-selling book Catch Him and Keep Him. Christian Carter, is a leading advisor to women on the subjects of dating, relationships, connection and love. An expert in psychology, communication and behavior, Christian Carter has developed foundational concepts that help women understand men, dating and relationships. Christian Carter’s theories of “Emotional Attraction”, “The Danger of a Connection”, and “The Relationship Balance” teach women how to create truly lasting attraction with a man and show them how to move effortlessly into a deeper, open, and more loving relationship all the while avoiding resistance, withdrawal or rejection. Christian Carter’s book, live seminars, and audio/video programs have helped thousands of women create amazing love-lives, overcome their fears and negative beliefs, and become more fulfilled in their relationships with men. (and all their relationships). Christian Carter Video Receive Christian Carter’s exclusive free dating advice email newsletter, at his website. After years of research into the dating habits of men, he decided to write a reference guide for women who are looking for understanding and power in her dating and relationships. Christian Carter eliminates the confusion that the majority of women feel when they continue in their dating lifestyle. Whether it’s a long-term relationship, or some fun, Christian Carter helps break down the simple truths that elude most women when it comes to the mind of the quality man. Christian Carter said this about his eBook “Catch Him and Keep Him”: “I’ve spent the better part of the last year making sure the entire book, from cover to cover, is the genuine article. The “real deal”. And it’s important to me that you get a ton of value if you invest the time and read it. You won’t be disappointed. My eBook “Catch Him & Keep Him” covers all the most important concepts, ideas, and strategies for women who want to meet and attract a great guy, and then set the foundation for building an amazing, lasting long-term relationship… And do it without coming up against all those frustrating and heart-wrenching problems and obstacles to true love that lots of women end up dealing with and sometime never escape from. So the books a kind of “cheat sheet” to the male psychology and inside the mind of a man. A step-by-step guide to attracting a man and communicating in a way that will lead him from feeling casual to committed in no-time flat. It represents several years of reading, observation, research, interviews and study all distilled into a truly usable reference manual to dating, romance and relationships with real men.” Receive Christian Carter’s exclusive free dating advice email newsletter, at his website.
- Catch Him And Keep HimCatch Him and Keep Him is guru Christian Carter‘s first book for women to improve their dating and relationships. Catch Him and Keep Him delves into the male mind and how it reacts when it’s involved with the dating world. It’s an inside look into how men think, from the perspective of a guy who’s been there – and done that. I find the masculinity of the book refreshing. This isn’t written by a counselor or a gay guy friend of yours: Christian Carter is very much in touch with his masculinity, and he doesn’t pull punches. He tells you what guys are really thinking and doing: the bare bald facts that most of us women don’t want to hear. In our hearts, I think many of us wish that men could be more like women. We wish that men could enjoy talking about their feelings more, could give up their addictions to gadgets and start getting hooked on having a family, kids, and even enjoy shopping with us more than just at Christmas time. According to Christian Carter, that sort of thinking has to stop. Men live in a different reality, and it is our job as women to understand where men are coming from without judgement. You can learn how to recognize a Player and the motives that drive them to play with hearts. Find yourself challenged to consider why you’re attracted to strong, dominant unavailable men and “players” … exactly the sort of men who will NOT make for a good relationship. One of Christian Carters’s central themes is the importance of understanding your emotional responses and acting on them appropriately. Christian challenges women to look at how flimsy their intuitive sense of a “connection” with a man really is: while the woman is sure he’s “The One” and planning their wedding invitations after the first date, he’s just thinking what a great gal she is and how great the sex will be. Christian injects a note of reality: “You’d be crazy to take the close relationship and love you want to find and gamble it away by betting on a guy whose greatest qualification is that he makes you feel attracted to him.” (p.33) Christian challenges you to be realistic about your expectations and assess your “emotional fitness.” Do you take responsibility for your life, or do you play the victim? Are you a “cool girl” or a “hysterical woman”? His list of Cool Girl Do’s and Dont’s hit home for many women. He’s right on the money about the kind of girl guys think is a great catch. The question remains: should you buy Christian Carter’s Catch Him and Keep Him book? I believe so. This book is a great start into understanding what really goes on inside a man’s mind and more importantly, how you can use that information to find a great guy! Click here to download Christian Carter’s book Catch Him And Keep Him.
Stop Screwing Up “New Relationships”
Something crazy happened the other day…
A friend of mine was dating an amazing woman he had recently met, and things were going great.
They had gone out 5 or 6 times and couldn’t keep their hands off each other.
They both felt a strong level of attraction and chemistry with each other that told them this wasn’t just another thing.
And my friend kept telling me how great this woman was after every date-
“She’s just the coolest woman I’ve ever met. She’s fun, she’s sexy, and we have such an incredible time together.”
I could see his interest in her was growing, and it was clear this was going somewhere in his mind. This guy didn’t usually talk or act this way about women he dated.
It looked like this was more than two people “dating”. It was becoming a “real relationship”.
But then something happened…
I didn’t hear from him for a few days, and I gave him a call.
As soon as he picked up the phone I could hear something was different in his voice.
He didn’t have the same energy and excitement that I’d been hearing lately.
I asked him, “So what’s going on?”
Reluctantly he told me-
“You remember that great woman I was dating?”
“Yeah”, I said.
“Well, I should have seen it coming. I finally found out that she’s crazy.”
And with that, it was absolutely clear that my friend was 100% OVER this woman.
Not 2 days ago he was falling for her and she could do no wrong.
In fact, the thought of her being “the one” might have even crossed his mind.
But in a matter of moments he had gone from passionate and excited to be with this woman to absolutely, positively sure that she would never be the kind of woman he wanted to stay with.
How did that happen?
So how does a man go from into a woman and thinking she might be “the one”, to suddenly WITHDRAWING because he sees her as “crazy”.
Even though she’s the same great woman he used to be so wild about moments before.
Well, I’ll tell you.
Have you ever heard a man you know – a guy friend, a brother, whoever – talk about how a certain woman is “crazy”?
It’s a common word among men… and if you’ve heard how men use this word, then I don’t have to tell you how men use it as a kind of short-hand.
When a guy says a woman who he was dating turned out to be “crazy”… every other guy who hears this knows what this means about the woman without having to ask.
In fact, without having ever talked about it directly, all men speak this kind of “guy code” about women when it comes to what it means if a woman is “crazy”.
All men have what I think of as a highly tuned “crazy” radar system when it comes to women and dating that signals a warning at the slightest hint of what they perceive as “crazy” behavior.
And what’s more fascinating is that all men have the exact same RESPONSE when they get a hint in their mind that a woman they’re dating is acting “crazy” – they WITHDRAW.
The truth is… no matter how amazing a woman seems, and no matter how incredible the time has been that a man’s spent with a woman, if a woman shows up and does anything that makes him see some of those “crazy” qualities, then EVERYTHING ELSE goes right out the window.
It’s as though nothing else ever happened in a man’s mind… and all he can see are the bad things he’s afraid might be there inside a woman.
Now, I know it’s not very “nice” to say and talk about a silly stereotype about women in general that isn’t true, or very mature to use.
But here’s the thing…
This is THE REALITY of HOW MOST MEN THINK about women when dating, for better or worse.
So why do so many men think this way about women and dating? And what can you do about it?
Here are 2 things you need to know:
1) Men “Date” Without A Relationship In Mind
Do you ever get frustrated that you can go out with a man and have an incredible time together, and maybe even go out on a few dates… and then he’ll simply stop calling and act as though there was never anything there between you?
Or have you ever had a man spend lots of time with you, beg for your time and attention, and then once he gets to be with you he suddenly turns on a dime and tells you how he’s not ready for a serious relationship?
Frustrating, right?
But what do all these things have in common?
They all are examples of how men don’t think of “dating” the way you do.
Men can spend time with a woman, be physical with her, and connect with her on a certain emotional level… and still not have any real desire for a relationship.
This in of itself isn’t a “revelation”.
Here’s what is…
There’s a “danger” to feeling that strong CONNECTION with a man.
The “Danger Of The Connection” you feel with a man is that all the things you think, feel and experience with him will tell you inside with certainty that this is something REAL.
The beginnings of an amazing RELATIONSHIP.
But the reality for a man is that feeling and experiencing this connection with you has VERY LITTLE to do with whether or not he will want a relationship with you.
In his mind, the feelings he shares with you are simply part of him “dating” you and spending time with you… and have nothing to do with him thinking about or wanting to COMMIT to anything with you.
2) Mature And Immature Men Can Be “Scared Off” By Women Who Show “Crazy Signals”
I wish it wasn’t so… but men can see the EMOTIONS you share with him as very bad things. Even when your INTENTION is good.
If you’re concerned about your relationship with a man, and you want to help things along by talking to him about it… often times the very same emotions that you feel because you want things to be better are the same emotions that will have him see you as “crazy” and want to get away from you as quickly as possible.
Sure, it would be great if men weren’t so quick to respond to your emotions in this kind of way… but then guess what?
Then they also wouldn’t be so quick to respond to your emotions in POSITIVE ways either.
I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love.
Your Friend,