A Secret To Meet And Attract Mr. Right

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Meet and Attract Mr Right

You’re about to learn secrets to meeting and attracting men that most women will never know. But first, let’s get something out of the way.

Have you ever talked to your friends or family about what you should do in your love-life?

Ok, so you know about all that lame “common sense” dating advice everyone has to offer.

Here’s something you might not know about it… Most of that advice has nothing to do with how things ACTUALLY work with men, dating and relationships.

That’s right. Nothing.

Especially when it comes to how men become attracted and interested in long term relationships with women. So if you’ve been listening to your mom, your girlfriends, guy friends, etc., then odds are you’re not having a lot of success, right?

But tons of women (and men) still follow that everyday “common sense” advice and try things that just don’t really help.

Here are a few examples of the advice you’ll hear from the people around you:

  • Act a little “bitchy” because men secretly like it
  • Go hang out where “good men” are likely to be and you’ll meet a great guy
  • Be active, have fun and keep a busy and interesting life of your own
  • Don’t act clingy or needy
  • Don’t expect to meet any good men in bars, clubs, party places, etc.
  • Meet men while doing things you like to do so you have similar interests
  • Let him initiate… wait for him to call you or ask you out
  • Play a little bit “hard to get”

Sound familiar?

Well, if you’re like lots of women I know, then one of the following probably describes your experience with this advice:

1. The ideas just didn’t “click” with you when you went to put them to use in your REAL LIFE… so you never even got around to doing anything at all

2. You put the advice to use and had some “success”, but when push came to shove, the same obstacles came up in your love-life and you were back to where you started

3. You put it to use and it got you NOWHERE

So what does this mean?

First things first – all of these basically lead to the same outcome in the real world.

You end up QUITTING them because they don’t really do anything radical to improve your love- life.

And guess what?

There’s a “statistical certainty” that applies to quitting…

It gets you NOWHERE.

So what should you do instead?

I’m glad you asked.

You need to find the right information and tools in your life that will WORK and create results.

The truth is, you only get one shot at living your love-life, so now’s the time to get it right.

So let’s get right to what works…

TWO TYPES OF ATTRACTION, TWO WAYS TO ATTRACT A MAN…

After years of study, reading, observation and thinking about what “ATTRACTION” is and how it works, I’ve found something that most people who study the subject have seemed to miss…

There’s more than one type of attraction.

I know… it seems simple and straightforward, right?

I’m sure you’ve experienced different types of attraction in your life.

But the truth is that no one in the “scientific world” of psychology, biology, sociology, etc. has bothered to, or been able to look at these things and separate them out into their parts.

Let alone actually describe how to go about creating these kinds of attraction and what they’re made up of.

Well…

I figured out something FASCINATING a few years ago while I was thinking about attraction.

There are two types of attraction a man can feel for a woman:

I call these “Physical Attraction” and “Intellectual Attraction”.

Here’s a secret about these two types of attraction:

ANY WOMAN can learn about these and go about creating one or both kinds of attraction with a man if she wants to.

PHYSICAL ATTRACTION

Let’s talk about the more “common” type of attraction first and how it’s created.

It’s the easiest and most understood.

We all know what Physical Attraction is and what it feels like.

And as a woman, I’m sure you’ve experienced and recognized how Physical Attraction can be triggered in a man.

Here’s a quick list of things that most women use to trigger Physical Attraction in a man:

- “Speaking” with your body language in a way that gets him looking at you physically – smiles, flipping your hair, laughing, etc.

- Wearing certain cool or seductive fashions, styles and ornamentation that attract attention

- Initiating and maintaining eye contact with men

- Wearing enticing perfumes or scents

- Being really “nice” to a guy and complimenting him

- Creating subtle or “accidental” touches on the man’s arm or leg

- Talking and flirting

- Teasing

- Getting physically close to a man

These are pretty obvious for most women, and sometimes they can create Physical Attraction with a man.

But here’s where it gets interesting.

If you want to get close to a man…

And if you want to create the kind of attraction that has him pining away just see you or hear your voice…

And if you want him to crave a deeper level of involvement, intimacy and commitment with you…

Then Physical Attraction alone is NOT going to get you there.

Never.

And here’s where I see tons of women make a huge mistake when it comes to understanding men and their “dating psychology”.

They believe that by creating an intense amount of Physical Attraction, a man will feel emotionally attached, involved, committed, intimate, etc.

WRONG.

If you haven’t seen or heard about the book “He’s Just Not That Into You”, this end result about men is what the author is talking about.

But in my opinion, he doesn’t explain the how and why… and more importantly, what to do about it if you don’t just want to accept that a man isn’t “into you”.

That’s where I come in.

The answer is – he’s just not that “attracted” to you.

But there IS something you can do about it that I’ve discovered after years of studying situations like this.

Here’s the catch.

A man CAN experience “connection”, involvement and a stronger level of attachment when he’s “physical” with a woman (Physical Attraction)…

But, unfortunately, the situation where a man is feeling Physical Attraction and becomes deeply connected and emotionally committed to a woman is RARE.

In other words, with most men, even if they’re feeling an intense amount of Physical Attraction, it doesn’t mean he wants anything but to continue the physical connection.

I know it would be easier if it were different.

But it’s not, so get over it.

And now that you know, here’s what to do about
it.

First, don’t make the painfully common mistake of assuming that if a man is physically attracted to you, that he also feels the desire to have more than just a physically driven relationship in the long term.

Next, start learning about what to do and what actually works to change the situation…

And now back to creating a deep level of attraction right now…

HOW TO THINK ABOUT “INTELLECTUAL ATTRACTION”

Instead of giving you the “techniques” and “tactics” for creating Intellectual Attraction, there’s something a thousand times more important that I want to talk with you about first.

It’s about creating the right MINDSET so that you can start to create Intellectual Attraction naturally on your own and avoid all kinds of resistance with men, dating and relationships.

Like the old “emotionally unavailable” guy trap.

Then you can go through all the steps and ideas I’ve got to create and AMPLIFY Intellectual Attraction.

Sound good?

Good.

Let me ask you something to help you get into the Intellectual Attraction “Mindset”…

Have you ever been in a situation with a man where you had been dating and physical together, but quickly you started to notice that he didn’t do much to initiate conversations or connect with you anymore?

He was withdrawing physically and emotionally and you could feel it and sense it, even if nothing had really been said.

And so you brought it up with him… and instead of him listening, opening up and seeing how he was acting and how it affected you both, he actually got IRRITATED with you.

Which freaked you out even more.

And at some point in the arguing, frustration, irritation, etc. did you deep down wish that he would just ACCEPT you and be OPEN to how great things really were when you were together?

ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MIND!!?

Think about it…

Do you think a man should just accept or “tolerate” the person who is supposed to be the love of his life!?

Absolutely not.

No, instead he shouldn’t be able to keep his mind and his hands off of you.

I’ll bet that you’d rather feel this way with the person you spend your life and time with too, right?

What if you were with someone and instead of finding a way to make you FEEL love, lust and a deeper sense of ATTRACTION to them, they wanted to CONVINCE you to feel these things.

And when you didn’t feel how they wanted you to feel, they got upset with you and it hurt and frustrated them to the point of being upset with you.

How do you think you’d react?

Would it MAKE you feel how they wanted you to feel?

It probably wouldn’t feel very comfortable with them.

And it definitely wouldn’t make you feel more ATTRACTED to them.

Get where I’m going with this?

If you want to make a man feel that deep burning desire to be with you both physically and emotionally, then “convincing” him or trying to use Physical Attraction to get close to him won’t work in the long run.

HOW TO TAKE YOUR CONNECTION AND RELATIONSHIP TO THE NEXT LEVEL

So here’s where I give you the simplest piece of information you’ll ever be able to put to use in your life that will have DRAMATIC POSITIVE EFFECTS.

Remember when we were talking about the “common sense” advice that lots of women follow?

Well, even if you’re having a terrible time and getting advice that doesn’t work, DON’T QUIT.

Not even if the ideas or advice you’re working with aren’t helping you.

Huh?

Why in the world would I recommend using advice that I know isn’t likely to help you too much in the long run?

Here’s the “elusive obvious” thing going on here -

You’ll LEARN a thousand times more by not quitting and trying new things in your life…even if they don’t get you exactly where you’d like to be or seem like they aren’t working at the time.

There’s no substitute in the world for KNOWLEDGE and learning.

But learning doesn’t take place if you quit and don’t find the lessons inside what you’re experiencing.

The trouble is that NOBODY wants to go through the process and learn all the lessons.

We ALL want INSTANT GRATIFICATION.

I sure do.

Unfortunately, that’s not how things usually work in the world.

But there is a shortcut here.

There are THREE CRITICAL STEPS that will help get you to a better place in your love-life…FAST

1. Finding the right information

2. Start learning

3. Stick with it and stay AWARE

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in life and love,

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Categories : Attracting Men

Christian Carter is a leading advisor to women on dating, relationships, connection and love. An expert in psychology, communication and behavior, Christian Carter has developed foundational concepts that help women understand men, dating and relationships. Visit Christian's official website, by clicking here.

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